
Editor’s note: Today’s guest post is by Sandra Pawula of Always Well Within.
Isn’t it intriguing that the definition of ecology reflects the natural principle of interconnectedness that lies at the very heart of many of the world’s wisdom traditions like Buddhism?
The Oxford Dictionary of English defines ecology as “the branch of biology that deals with the relations of organisms to one another and to their physical surroundings.”
It appears that ecology and spirituality agree: we are all inextricably linked – for better or for worse.
We are not independent. What we think, say, and do has an impact. Is it a positive impact or a negative one? The choice is always yours.
According to the principle of interdependence, our impact is like a boomerang. Our actions go out and touch others, helping or harming. Then the impact bounces back to either harm or help us too. It’s impossible to escape the effects of our own actions. Therefore, your interest and my interest are intimately connected.
A practical example of interdependence is the simple fact that radiation from Japan’s nuclear crisis will touch everywhere in the world, carried along by wind and water.
Understanding and living in accord with interdependence is the secret to finding your own happiness, healing the environment, and making other positive changes in the world.
“In today’s highly interdependent world, individuals and nations can no longer resolve many of their problems by themselves. We need one another. We must therefore develop a sense of universal responsibility… It is our collective and individual responsibility to protect and nurture the global family, to support its weaker members, and to preserve and tend to the environment in which we all live.” – the Dalai Lama
Living Interdependently
Embracing interdependence – really allowing this truth to permeate your being – will transform the way you view the world and gradually inform every action you take. It won’t happen overnight, it takes practice. But once your recognize interdependence, there’s no turning back. Here are three ways that living with the awareness of interdependence touches and transforms you and the world around you.
1. Learning to Love Everyone
We all want to be happy and we all want to avoid suffering. It’s our very nature and the motivation behind all our actions and endeavors as individuals and as societies. This wish for happiness is the common thread that binds us.
“After all, all human beings are the same – made of human flesh, bones, and blood. We all want happiness and want to avoid suffering. Further, we have an equal right to be happy. In other words, it is important to realize our sameness as human beings.” - the Dalai Lama
When we understand interdependence, we realize that harming others only harms us, whereas helping others, helps us. Most of us understand this intuitively and can easily observe the principle in our lives.
For example, an angry person almost always puts other people off. Their words and actions usually trigger more discord and a greater sense of separation. Chances are, their blood pressure rises and they can even feel worked up for days. It’s clear that the harm of being angry bounces back to harm you.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” - Mark Twain
Understanding this common wish for happiness and our fundamental interconnectedness makes it far easier to connect with others person-to-person. This in turn increases our ability to solve both individual and global problems. It’s just common sense that people who feel connected are more likely to work together to solve problems.
One way to cultivate interdependence in action is to consistently practice putting ourselves in another person’s shoes. When someone violates your environmental ethics, instead of going with a knee-jerk reaction of blame, judgment, anger, or frustration, try to remember that they are simply “another you.” They’re a real person just like you with the same desires and same fears. Look for the common ground. The only way we can effect lasting change in the world is to reach out and genuinely interact with others and to treat others with respect.
Problems are compounded when we treat our “adversaries” as though they are not human. New possibilities and solutions – even miracles – arise when we drop our attitude of judgment and connect person-to-person. Operating from judgment and separation only creates a greater divide. There are negative actions, but there are no good guys and bad guys. We are one.
“To see the all-pervading Spirit of Truth, one must be able to love the meanest of all creation as oneself.” – Mahatma Gandhi
This doesn’t mean whitewashing environmental assaults, unethical marketing, and inappropriate actions. Holding people accountable for their actions is different than judgment and blame. It can be done with love.
When we understand interdependence, we realize that love is the answer. It takes practice and perseverance, but we learn to gradually open are heart wider and wider.
“Whenever you are confronted with an opponent, conquer him with love.” – Mahatma Gandhi
2. We’re All Ignorant
Why does anyone harm in the first place?
It all boils down to ego. We take our self very seriously. Almost all our actions are centered around trying to promote or protect our self. This typically leads us into an array of negative thoughts and emotions: desire, anger, ignorance, pride, and jealousy. And these in turn lead to problematic actions.
Sure we have moments of happiness, but for the most part dissatisfaction and suffering ensue. Although we have countless material possessions, dissatisfaction pervades modern life. Divorce, child abuse, violence, crime, drug and alcohol addiction, depression, anxiety and other desperate states are all-pervasive. All this stems from identifying so strongly with our sense of self and considering it to be permanent, singular, and independent.
The very structure of modern life is geared toward building up the notion of self and creating a greater illusion of autonomy and independence. Marketing focuses on fulfilling “your” needs. Owning your own car, home, computer, and countless other personal possessions fosters this sense of independence and separateness rather than a sense of connection and community.
We all operate from a place of self-interest, almost all the time. There may be a difference in scale, but the truth is that we are mostly thinking about “me.” “My” problems, my goals, my agenda, my illness, my pleasure, my pain, my personal development. What will make “me” feel good? While it’s often easy to see this in others, it’s usually more difficult to recognize this tendency in our self. But if you honestly look into your own mind for a few moments, chances are you’ll find that most of your thoughts are about you.
But the funny thing is that this solid sense of self we’ve created doesn’t really exist. In the Buddhist view, ego is defined as the incessant grasping at a false notion of self. If you take a deep look, you will never be able to find this “self.” It’s just a construct or label we’ve created for the ever-changing stream of thoughts and emotions, sensory experiences, and body parts we call “me”. The self does not inherently exist.
Don’t worry. This doesn’t mean you don’t exist. We exist, but not in the way that we normally think we do – not as an independently existing self. The idea and label of “self” is a handy convention for relating in the world, but it is not an accurate picture of reality.
There is a way out of this constant preoccupation with self. Beyond our narrow, limited idea of self is an ever-present, pure awareness – our true self. It’s like a clear, open, limitless sky and the very heart of compassion. Our thoughts and emotions are simply like clouds passing by in the sky.
“When the mind goes beyond the thought of ‘the me,’ the experiencer, the observer, the thinker, then there is a possibility of a happiness that is incorruptible.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti
You are not your thoughts and emotions.
Realizing this brings a tremendous sense of freedom. Gradually, we learn to stop identifying so strongly with every passing thought, emotion, and sensory experience as the real “me”. Instead of enmeshing ourselves in turbulent emotions, we can let them pass right by. Instead of creating an ego-driven story fraught with drama and despair, we can see our habitual tendency, smile at ourselves, and abort. Connecting with our innermost essence and living wide awake, here and now, cuts the endless circle of suffering.
This fundamental heart of goodness lives within every single one of us. It’s simply called by different names in different wisdom traditions. At the moment, it may be obscured by the clouds of thoughts, emotions, and the illusion of separateness; that’s the essence of ignorance. But it’s always there waiting for us to uncover it.
When you recognize the sky-like nature of mind, a tremendous sadness and surge of compassion arises for all those who suffer needlessly due to this constant grasping onto self. Any sense of separateness falls away and a deep wish arises for everyone else to recognize their true nature too. When we touch our true nature, we spontaneously feel one with all of life.
Awakening to interdependence and discovering our true self, moves us to cultivate the qualities of the human spirit – such as love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony – that will bring happiness to our self and everyone around us. An appreciation for biological interdependence and a concern for the environment naturally follows.
3. Living Wide Awake
Once we release the illusion of separateness, interdependence infuses our thinking and our being. We naturally want to make different choices. Simplicity is not necessarily easy, but we just start where we are and slowly move forward. Our deep concern for others impels us to think sustainable, press pause, consume mindfully, and live green. We resist the urge to consume willy-nilly and start asking questions like:
- Is this a sustainable choice?
- Is this a responsible choice?
- Do I really need this?
- How will this choice effect others?
- Could I buy this item locally instead of purchasing an item that has to be shipped hundreds or thousands of miles?
- Is there an option that contains little or no plastic packaging?
- Can I buy this used instead of new?
- Can I make this for myself?
The way to heal the environment is to awaken to interdependence – from both a biological and spiritual perspective – and express it in every one of our thoughts, words, and deeds. When you change yourself, you change the world.
“We have destroyed our Mother Earth in the same way bacteria or a virus can destroy a human body. Mother Earth is also a body. Of course, there are bacteria that are beneficial to the human body, that protect the body and help generate enzymes that we need. Similarly, if the human species wakes up and knows how to live with responsibility, compassion, and loving kindness, the human species can be a living organism with the capacity to protect the body of Mother Earth. We have to see that we inter-are with our Mother Earth, that we live with her and die with her.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
Changing our self does not preclude collective action, technological solutions, or political savvy. Each challenge needs its own practical solution as well. For example, climate change isn’t going to reverse itself simply because we are nice to each other. We need to take practical steps too, but without an inner revolution there is no hope for lasting change.
It’s disastrous to think we are separate from nature or each other – both science and spirituality agree.
Images by Sue Alexander and dragonfly photo by Public Domain Pictures
Sandra Pawula writes about personal transformation, simple wisdom, health, and ecology at Always Well Within. Her aspiration is to help others find true happiness and freedom. Her vision is a more harmonious world. You can follow her on Twitter at @alwayswellwithn.









I love this post!!
I’ve been on a journey to become more “aware” and the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that I have to allow people to be where they are in their own reality. As soon as I realized that I’ve created a world where my ego can feel safe (although it never does and it’s never satisfied), I knew that I didnt have to be a victim of it anymore. And I wanted to tell everyone they didn’t have to do that to themselves anymore either. But I had to learn that everyone has created their own reality, just as I have done mine, and that they have their own journey to become more aware. It helps me to allow them to be human and become aware in their own time.
I don’t know if I made any sense, but i just want you to know that I got a lot out of this blog.
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Hi Wendi,
I love the way you captured the essence of this post in your own experience. When you have a glimpse of freedom – as you described so beautifully – you naturally want everyone to feel free too. You are very wise to understand that everyone is moving at their own pace. When we can let go and let be we can live with so much more comfort, ease, and love while still lending a helping hand however we can. Simply living from awareness and love can inspire others to do so too.
The ego will never feel safe or satisfied. But as we slowly erode away the illusion of ego, we find a true sense of confidence and freedom.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, Wendi. I’m wishing you the best on your journey of awareness.
Hi Sandra,
Reading this brought such a deep happiness and gratitude. I am learning to embrace more of our connectedness, and realize how much starts from my attitude within and then how it touches others. Thank you for giving my artwork such a warm and wise message to bring it to life, for giving your special voice to helping us change for the better, and for spreading inspiration so beautifully :~)
Sue
Hi Sue,
I feel so happy to hear that this post brought a deep happiness and gratitude to you. If we can touch someone else in a positive, I believe it spins out to touch the whole world. All this is a learning process and I’m so happy to be traveling the path of connectedness with you.
It was such an inspiration to feature your artwork in this post. I think it looks especially gorgeous on Lynn’s beautiful blog.
Thanks for this beautiful (guest) post.
I remember the first time I came to the realization that my happiness depended entirely on me – not on external circumstances like the weather, how busy my day is, the moods of those around me, and the amount of money in my bank account. It was a strange sensation, happiness independent of the details of my existence (kind of like unconditional love), and it flowed quickly into acceptance, forgiveness, and peace.
Moments like those are fleeting, but I continue to “practice” happiness because it feels good and connects me to my purpose on this earth and my desire to give back.
Hello Andrea,
I’m so inspired to hear about your experience of “unconditional happiness” and the way it sparked acceptance, forgiveness, and peace. Thank you for sharing your insights. May your “practice” of happiness flourish!
It’s so invigorating to know that more and more people like you are tuning in to their inner spring of true happiness. I’m delighted to see how this awareness is growing more and more in the environmental community. I feel the benefits will be profound for both individuals and the world.
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Sandra,
Thanks so much for contributing such a special and thoroughly thoughtful guest post! I am honored to host your work on my site. This piece is so rich with truth, and you do a wonderful job of melding love with science and spirituality. I think your ultimate message is so right – the way to heal the environment is to awaken to interdependence. Living wide awake seems daunting to many people, but I believe it is the only way we as a culture can survive in the long term. Thank you again for your sophisticated perspective!
Lynn,
I’m so honored to guest post at Upcycled Love and connect with your concerned and caring community of readers. Thank you for this special opportunity and for your kind words. The themes that I write about in this post run through so many of your articles too. I’m very heartened to see how this marriage of ecology and simple wisdom seems to be growing in both the environmental and spiritual communities. May it touch and transform the world in beautiful ways!
Hi Sandra
You would make a good defense attorney (I’m not sure, but I think that’s a complement lol). Your reasoning is flawless and your arguments unimpeachable.
Riley
Riley,
I definitely take that as a compliment! I do have an analytical mind and I’m gradually learning how to balance it with intuition and creativity. I’m glad the logic of this article sits well with you.
Hi Sandra,
I landed here from the hint you left on your blog.
Beautiful post with lots of food for thought. I read a book called Ishmael (I think that’s the name) that approaches the relationship we have with our environment and other living creatures from the perspective of other animals. Very interesting and enlightening.
Thanks for always presenting your topics from the heart. Loving blessings!
Andrea,
Thank you for visiting! That sounds like a very interesting book. I’m so glad you’ve mentioned it. It always helps to put ourselves in others’ shoes, including the animals.
Sandra~
can we L♡ve more? YES! always, never-ending**8**
how do WE make that choice- every second.
2gether.2Gather.OneEarth.
Your comment really gave me a big smile! Thank you. And I love your gorgeous artwork too.
This statement has both depth and breadth. It’s a well-crafted lesson in the dance of Maya, with a good melody and tempo. It helps close the gap between us. I love being in such good company, and would dance with you anywhere, Sandra. Thank you too, Lynn, for the opportunity.
Only humans are in a position to shepherd the Earth.
Mike,
I would love to switch partners (from Maya) and dance with you any day!
This is such a wonderful point: “Only humans are in a position to shepherd the Earth.” A noble aspiration indeed!
“When we can begin where we are and just move slowly forward”
There is power in this one line because it gives others permission to be where they are today. Acceptance will move others forward.
“protect or promote ourselves” Unless we are connecting with our higher selves we are in our ego state. Maybe that’s why blogging can get crazy sometimes…we are always promoting ourselves;)
For me the easiest of these is putting myself in another’s shoes. I think I was born with someone else’s shoes on! Seriously I had to learn how to take those shoes off or I would have burned out as a therapist and mother.
Yep, it’s that pesky ego again!
Some of us are truly born more sensitive to others. I fully resonate with your experience and thoughts on the matter. I feel like there’s so much to say on this topic alone. I’m glad you’ve found your solutions and haven’t burned out as a therapist, mother, or human being.
You always add valuable thoughts to the conversation. Thank you so much!
Beautiful post, Sandra. I’m a long way from loving everyone (such a long way!) or from quelling my ego, but I still love your idea of awakening to interdependence. As compelling as self-interested reasons to go green are (save money, be healthier, etc.), I don’t know how effective they will ultimately be without the realization that all of our actions affect many more animals, systems, and people than we can know.
Hi Jennifer,
To paraphrase the title of your blog, it’s not easy to love everyone or quell your ego! I find it helps to start with baby steps and grow one’s love from there. Aspiration is also very powerful. If we continue to aspire and take small steps each day, we will grow in our love and awareness of interdependence.
I fully agree with your main point. Some change may come about, but it won’t be lasting change if we don’t root out the underlying causes, which are our own negative emotions and ignorance.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.
I could feel the sky above me open up as I read this post. Awaking to my true self, awaking to my interdependence with nature, makes me feel all warm and cozy inside. If I open up my heart to the sky, open up to love all living things, to love the beautiful miracle of life that is our Mother Earth, maybe that little extra bit of love from me will make a difference in healing her.
Thank you – so beautiful.
Hi Sherry,
The sky opening above you is the perfect image to express the essence of this post. When we have that sense of opening – as you beautifully describe – love naturally bubbles up inside. It can then pour out and heal the world and the planet. Thanks so much for sharing this beautiful imagery.
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